image embedded in tweet is a full bin labeled “Free Condoms, Be Safe Today!”, with the aro flag on both the label and each of the condom packets, next to a full bin labeled “Free Water Balloons, Have Fun Today!”, doing the same thing with the ace flag.
This is in fact a funny joke, but it’s worth noting that that condoms are stronger than balloons. I say this as someone who has taken a 3 pound bag of water to the face that did not explode.
ive noticed some backlash against stuff like “it’s okay if you can’t brush your teeth/shower regularly/eat healthy” in the vein of “actually it’s unhealthy and youre promoting bad things!!! fucking brush/shower/drink water!!!!!!” and im not. a fan.
i think it comes down to the assumption that executive dysfunction is fundamentally an issue of ignorance or laziness or not taking something seriously enough or not being motivated enough. personally I have constantly been reminded in graphic detail by the abled people in my life of the negative effects of my executive dysfunction. I am not ignorant, it’s not that I don’t understand how serious self care can be. I have been reminded CONSTANTLY from others & from my body & from myself because it scares me.
Like. look at me. I have literally, multiple times, though to myself “maybe I should just stop eating entirely” because I have been so extremely ashamed of my inability to eat “normally” and “healthy.” personally I find water tasty but if someone literally cannot bring themselves to drink water then I hope they drink whatever they can NO EXCEPTIONS! again there’s this assumption that if you just scare people enough that they’ll suddenly start Trying Hard Enough & that’s just. not how it works for a lot of folks.
@msmc101 okay so. i’m going to say this as nice as possible: i don’t think you understand what i’m talking about & this is exactly what i mean when i talk about this kind of ableism.
you are assuming that i, and other people who struggle with bathing, are making a decision out of ignorance or lack of understanding. you “understand skipping a day or two” but “skipping” implies a greater deal of control than most of us experience.
you mean well & i appreciate that, but i am not under any illusions that bathing is unnecessary. this is not a helpful comment at all. i do not need you to explain why bathing is important.
above, i mentioned my abled family’s reaction to me not brushing my teeth. my mother has only ever meant to help me, but her telling me that not brushing my teeth would result in horrific terrifying illnesses did absolutely nothing to help me. it only made me hate myself for not being able to take care of myself, and gave me terrible panic attacks.
because i know, okay? i know. we know. this is not the result of ignorance.
it sounds like you have not experienced the experience of being literally unable to make yourself bathe for days, weeks, months of end, only being able to wear deodorant or use a wet towel, and having to listen to people like you be the butt of every internet joke about lazy abusive assholes who “can’t bother to shower” and having people, similar to you but far less well-meaning, who also “understand skipping a day or two” but think anyone who is a little bit more disabled than that is disgusting and making a gross choice that we deserve to be shamed for.
telling me or anyone else who struggles with bathing “its really important to stay clean” is like telling someone who is stuck in a 100ft whole “its really important for you to not be in a hole.” i know. and i probably know a whole lot better than you how much it sucks to be in the hole. i know a whole lot more about the hole, why the hole sucks, how hard it is to get out of the whole, and i have spent more time figuring out how to make the hole even slightly better for myself than you, a stranger, have.
not only is it far better to suggest ways to make bathing/brushing teeth/eating/etc. more accessible, but you know what? sometimes you don’t need to comment on people’s executive dysfunction. sometimes its okay not to appoint yourself the savior of every disabled person. you can just let us vent & be the experts on our experiences, unless we ask for advice.
Like its not that people are like “meh, I can go another day without showering”
It’s begging and pleading and threatening yourself to just GET UP and SHOWER
It’s standing there naked in front of the shower for 10 minutes because you’re inexplicably* terrified and unable to just get into the water
(*it’s not inexplicable! It’s executive dysfunction! It still feels like there’s No Cause though, even when you know it’s executive dysfunction)
It’s your brain and body screaming at you when you try to brush your teeth, feeling like you’re turning into a hurricane of static and stinging bees, until you give up and just swish some water and toothpaste around in your mouth because at least that’s something.
Like it’s literally a disability.
Depending on the task, it falls under either ADL or IADL. ADL stands for “activities of daily living” and refers to things like bathing, feeding oneself, and and going to the toilet. IADL stands for “instrumental activities of daily living”, and refers to more complex activities like cooking, cleaning, and shopping.
Not bathing can fall under either of those, depending on the person. For me it was that I knew how to bathe, I could bathe myself, but due to executive dysfunction from mental illness I often couldn’t get myself to change my clothes, or had to wipe myself down with a wet soapy cloth. So I count myself as struggling with IADL.
Other people struggle with basic activities like they literally cannot ever bathe themselves, they require assistance to bathe and someone to feed them food. ADLs are associated more with physical disabilities and intellectual disabilities.
So basically, yeah we aren’t skipping basic hygiene, people are literally disabled and struggle with doing basic tasks.
Reminding people of what will happen only causes more distress.
Reminding people
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causes more distress.
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
TIK TOK MUST BE STOPPED BEFORE IT DESTROYS LANGUAGE
Ok, unless something’s going on I’m not aware of (extremely likely), I gotta point out the term “Pet Play” is significantly older than Tik Tok, or most of its userbase for that matter.
Yeah, I’m not mad about using the term “pet play”. That’s a perfectly fine term. I’m mad because they didn’t use that term: they used “pet p!ay”, a censored version
Oh. Oh gawd I missed that. Objection withdrawn, that is objectively terrible.
To anybody who is new to posting on ao3, if you’re using a tag you have to use the correct spelling of that tag. People aren’t going to type in every version of a censored word to hide or look for your content 
For everyone new to tumblr, the same rule applies to tumblr too.
You cannot censor your tags! Censored tags cannot be block or filtered. Censoring tags HARMS your audience, it does not protect them
Honestly the culture of ‘you must censor yourself online or be punished’ is Super Dangerous. Like you shouldn’t be able to make people say ‘le$bean’ instead of lesbian (which is a real example i saw just today). It’s so fucked up that people are censoring themselves willingly (though we should mostly blame the corporations that condition people to do that) and they don’t see a problem with it.
Just to clarify, in the case of AO3, human volunteers who are giving their precious time to make your fandom better will have to comb through your tags and wrangle them on AO3’s end so they do actually show up as “pet play” when people try to search for them or filter them out. Unpaid! generous! volunteers! are having to sort through your trash because you didn’t take the time to learn about the platform you’re using.
For tumblr, self-censorship hurts people with screen readers and those trying to blacklist that exact content.
It’s okay if you didn’t know before but stop self-censoring immediately. There’s no reason to do it.
“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted
An actual World Heritage Post
how does this post not have a million notes but anyone online can quote it
idk i think its just kind of weird that- *giant invisible hand grabs me by the back of the neck like a kitten and starts lifting me away* god damn it not this again
ALT
